Realistic Expectations about Ukrainian Women?
Hi, my name is Tyler. I was hoping that you could help answer some general questions for me about dating/marrying Ukrainian women so I can determine if Ukraine would be the best option for me compared to dating someone from another country. Feel free to answer whatever questions you can, however extensively you feel comfortable.
I am 25 years old and am considering pursuing foreign dating in a couple of years (I have to pay off student loans first). I make around $40,000 per year, but my expendable income is around $15,000 per year. Is there a minimum income that you think is required in order to date someone from the Ukraine? I am not sure how much money an average Ukrainian woman would expect me to spend on her with my income. Currently, I live in a 1 bedroom apartment in a town of about 1,800 people (I have always been a person for small towns, although I am fine traveling to larger cities on occasion, or for work.) Do most Ukrainian women expect to live in cities or towns, or doesn't it matter much?
I consider myself kind, considerate, and more on the intellectual side. Generally, I am one for conversation about a variety of topics. I would consider myself somewhat romantic.
The following is what I am looking for in a partner. Please notify me if these requirements are realistic or not, and if not, which ones.
I am looking for someone who is kind, considerate, caring, loving, affectionate, honest, loyal, and has a sense of humor. I also want someone who knows how to disagree and resolve issues respectfully. Personally, I would take a woman who is a "6" or "7" on a physical attractiveness scale and is personable, emotionally stable, and loving than someone who is a "10" and is manipulative, condescending, etc
I am also looking for someone who is good with kids (I am expecting to start a family in the future). I have heard from a relative who has a friend whose son married someone from Russia that the Russian wife is very cold, stern, and unaffectionate towards her child. I have no idea if this is an individual behavior that the wife has or if it reflects a general trend in how Russian or Ukrainian women parent children. If you could tell me about what the general parenting style is in the Ukraine/Russia, I would appreciate it. I also am looking for someone who does not have any kids, but I remember you recommending on your website to try not to date someone very young without any kids because women who have kids are more likely to be "settled down". Is it very difficult to find someone without kids who is settled down and knows what she wants in a relationship?
I also would like to find someone who is not into partying and does not have a long history of partying and "being around the block" (I know this probably sounds derogatory, but I am having a difficult time expressing it in more "politically correct" terms). One of the problems that I have read about from some people who have dated women from Colombia, for instance, is that there is a cultural behavior of lying about personal history and actions, like number of romantic partners, educational background, careers, etc. (I am not trying to say that ALL people there behave like this). Is this kind of problem common in dating people from the Ukraine (lying about number of partners, actions, careers, etc.)? If this is so, are there ways to "filter" through those who are likely to have had a more "wild" or "undesirable" history than those who have been more on the conservative side? I don't want to sound like a probing jerk and ask a ton of questions to my possible future partner, but it would be nice to be able to have a general idea of her history, if possible. I would be glad to be open about my personal history to someone who I dated.
I would like someone who has a career or some career goals, as most American families cannot live off of one person's income in the U.S., unless the earner is a doctor, lawyer, etc. I would not have a problem with her working as a nurse, secretary, legal assistant, technician, etc., as long as her work can be separated from her home life, which I think more American women are having a difficult time doing with an attitude of "having it all" and managing the home like they manage some of their co-workers (to be fair, there are men that also do this). I know working outside the home may be adverse to what many Ukrainian women do, but I also would like to be realistic about maintaining a livable income between my spouse and I (and our future children). If a woman has a career, is her degree and/or career usually valid in the U.S. like it is in the Ukraine?
Have you heard of any agencies trying to convince/bribe women who are dating someone from the U.S. to continue dating other U.S. clients? I have heard that some agencies try to obligate a woman who is already dating a U.S. client to continue communicating and dating other people so the translators and agencies can continue to get paid money from more clients. Have you heard of this for any of the Ukrainian agencies you recommend on your site?
Relating to visiting the Ukraine, are there any precautions about "not drinking the water" or any other health practices to use? I know some countries have unsafe water, food, living conditions, etc., and I wasn't sure how safe the Ukraine is to visit at certain times or how safe their food/water is. Are the Ukrainian families welcoming to foreigners who date one of their family members?
Thank you for considering and answering my questions.