Am I being scammed or falling in love

by Joe
(Massachusetts)

Hi my name is Joe. I'm very confused and unclear whether I am being hustled. I've been talking to Anna, who is 30 years old. She is beautiful and nice, I'm 51 and I look around 40. I consider myself to be handsome and I am financially secure. She has captured my heart and I believe that I'm falling in love with her. She is getting a loan from her parents to meet me, she hasn't asked me for any money. What advice can you give me?


Bob's Answer:

You are being hustled. Look through the other posts here and you'll see your exact scenario repeated over and over.

First, she probably doesn't really have a visa to just come here. It's not that easy. Second, this whole loan from parents... at the last second there is going to be some problem with that loan... she was on her way to the airport and stopped by parents to pick up money, but it turns out that they couldn't get it because the bank was closed, or there was some problem with the account. But, if you would wire her the money to pay the balance for her ticket at the airport she will surely be able to pay you back by the time she arrives (because by then her parents will have resolved the bank problems, etc.).

It can vary a little from that, but I assure you she's not going to be showing up.

You didn't say how you met... What site? Who contacted who first? Have you spoken to her on Skype? Do you have her cell phone number? Have you spoken to her by phone? You can add the answers to those questions by adding a comment to this post if you want, but the answers to those questions would only move my assurance that this is a scam up or down by 0.1% (from 99.9%).

DON'T CHALLENGE HER, like asking for a scanned copy of her passport or visa, and don't ask her to send you a picture holding up a sign with your name on it, or anything like that.

At this point you have 2-3 choices...

1) Just quit writing her. This is your best move. If you're really interested in meeting Russian/Ukrainian women, read my whole site, and pick one of the dating sites I recommend (click "Reviews" in left menu).

2) Play along until you see I'm right about the last-minute cash crisis. Then you'll know. Oh, if you do wire her any money in such a scenario, let me know first so I can create a fake scenario and get you to wire the money to me instead :)

3) If you REALLY can't let go, just tell her you would really prefer to meet her in her city first, and plan a trip. All the details on how to pull that off can be found in many other questions/answers so I don't want to repeat them here.

Here, read this one: Is She For Real?

And this: Avoiding Russian Women Scams