How to validate if she is real
by KC
Hello there.. I left a comment on you site, not realizing I could contact you directly. I am interested in validating this women whom I am speaking with from Russia and met on Match.com. I approached her and we have been speaking for about 4 weeks or so. She seems real legit but I'm still very skeptical, I have done many things to try to call her bluff and said things to see her reaction or how she would handle certain questions. She seems very legit, and now there is talk of her coming here but she has no asked for anything yet; no money or nothing. I even at one time just to see what she would say, offered to send her things, a prepaid phone that I would pay for , for i.e.. but she did not accept it and said that embarrassed her that I would do that. I asked for her physical address and she gave it to me, but I am unsure what addresses really look like in Russia. It looks legit; has everything on but a numeric road address it's the building number. Guess this may be how they do it. One concern that I have is, I am having trouble speaking on the phone with her, she is having trouble calling. I would like to have your opinion or advice on how to find out if she is legit. Thank you.
Bob's Answer:
I answered your comment, but will add to it here.
I have heard that Match.com blocks activity from Russian and Ukrainian IP addresses, so that automatically calls her authenticity into question. Did you actually connect on Match.com, or did she email you directly SAYING she saw you on Match?
Either way, it's suspicious right out of the blocks.
About phones: ***ALL*** Russian/Ukrainian women have mobile phones, and ALL Russian/Ukrainian mobile phones are FREE to use for INCOMING calls and texts, even from overseas. They only pay to place calls or send texts.
And while internet may be a TINY bit less widespread than here, even very remote places have internet.
She almost certainly cannot obtain a tourist visa to the U.S., so she can't visit.
Read my whole site... Seriously, it's free, and it's the best information out there.
If you're REALLY committed to seeing this one through, the only recourse is for you to VISIT HER in HER CITY. Nothing else will do. And I wouldn't visit her until I spent at least 10-20 hours on combined phone and Skype video calls (Skype is a must).