Russian dating sites
First, my congratulations and sincere thanks for creating a truly helpful site! Only wish had found it sooner, but then I might not have met the most amazing lady in my life!
Am hoping you can help with following questions: 1) what do you know about 'Online Dating Ukraine' (also 1st International?), 'Jump4Love', and 'Step2Love'?
And what are your thoughts about using a private investigator (detective agency) in Ukraine to find specific information on a lady?
Met 'Anastasia' at Online Dating Ukraine (first site joined February 2013). Exchanged moderate number of letters, personal info, and photos before I suspected site was a scam! Left there and joined Jump4love which seemed more reputable (found somebody else in your shoes who said it was, sigh) and quickly realized I gone from the 'fat to the fire'! Left Jump and joined AnastasiaDate (yeah, I'm an idiot!) and stayed there for awhile before realizing the error in my ways!
Returned to ODU and picked up again with Anastasia, but after four months had had enough with online dating and left all the sites again!
Flash forward to September 2014 when I picked up with Anastasia AGAIN (yes, there is a method in my madness!) only this time something happened between us, wonderful, a feeling have never felt with any other woman and happily (or sadly, depending on my point-of-view) she stole my heart!
Up until late October we were communicating almost every day on site and private email but since then her letters have slowed to once a week or less and I've become concerned about her well being!
2) What are your thoughts about using a private investigator?
Would like to hear your answers to questions before continuing.
Thanks for your help
Thanks for your compliments!
I have no direct experience with any of the sites you mention, but I do see that another reader posted a question regarding www.online-dating-ukraine.com. See it and my answer at Is Online Dating Ukraine a scam?.
Having just looked at jump4love.com and Step2Love.com my answer regarding those is 99% the same.
ANY TIME you want to know if a site is honest, just look for descriptions of their services. If you find that you must pay for each "letter" (aka, "pay-per-letter") or for each chat session, Skype session, or phone call, it's a scam... a scam in the way I describe on that other page.
NEVER NEVER NEVER use pay-per-letter, not even if they have the most honest sounding anti-scam statement, even if (actually let's say ESPECIALLY IF) they are U.S.-based.
Either the agency/site is writing on behalf of the woman (with or without her knowledge), or the woman is paid a share of the letter revenue for corresponding with you. She is almost surely "real" in that her name, pictures, location, and description are accurate, but it's just a job for her (at best, at worst, she doesn't even know she is writing you).
IF writing women 45 year old, not-very-attractive, a little overweight, etc. at those sites, THOSE MIGHT BE "real" :) If you're writing to 22 year old Victoria's Secret models, fake.
ONLY use free sites or sites that charge for a period of time during which you can have unlimited communication with unlimited women. For example, see my review of
Russian-Ukrainian-Women.com. It has far and away the largest, most active database of Russian/Ukrainian women of any site, and it's pay-per-period (like a match.com).
As for the private investigator? NO. On the one hand, Russia/Ukraine is not like here where a P.I. could probably tell you 99% of what you needed to know without leaving his/her computer. Not nearly so much is computerized. They are often paid cash, records regarding whether someone is married or not will rarely be found.
So it really wouldn't even work if it was a good idea.
But the bigger thing is that you just need to stay away from the pay-per-letter sites. Even if you do avoid pay-per-letter you still need to be on alert, but on PPL it is CERTAIN!