So here goes... I'm gay! Do you know anything about meeting Ukrainian or Russian men?

by Miguel
(Grand Junction, Colorado)

So here goes... I'm gay! Do you know anything about meeting Ukrainian or Russian men? I have talked to a few guys online. Are my challenges similar to the straight men looking for love?


Bob's Answer:

Let me give my most confident answer first: I really don't know.

But I'll "think out loud" a bit and see if it helps...

An American woman friend once asked me if it was just as promising for American WOMEN to find a Russian/Ukrainian man. I know that's not exactly the same question as yours, but my answer to her was definitely "NO".

And the reason for that immediate "NO" was that Russia/Ukraine has a bit of an oversupply of women and an under supply of men. That factor, in turn, tends to make the men there a little spoiled. MANY of them drink a LOT, and MANY of them are unfaithful to their wives. And the opposite is true for the women: They tend to be - ON AVERAGE - less spoiled than they might be in a culture with ratios more in their favor.

So the very reason that it is good for a man to seek a woman there is the very same reason it would be bad for a woman to seek a man there.

That's obviously not at all a one-to-one correlation to your situation because I would not think that the whole under supply/oversupply dynamic would matter in same-sex relationships.

Gosh, as I read that I see it may not have been that helpful.